Pages

Sunday, August 18, 2019

Right at Home of Central New Jersey Sponsors an Important Episode of Approved Senior Network TV.


For Immediate Release:


Right at Home of Central New Jersey sponsored one of the latest episodes of Approved Senior Network TV’s new Facebook Live Video program: “When Is It Time To Ask for Senior Care Help?” with Valerie VanBooven, RN, BSN as the Host.


Approved Senior Network Presents: When to Ask for Senior Care Help!
Click HERE to Watch This Episode



Right at Home of Central New Jersey offers in-home companionship and personal care and assistance to seniors and disabled adults who want to continue to live independently. The Right at Home of Central New Jersey office is a locally owned and operated franchise office of Right at Home, Inc., serving the communities of Middlesex and Northern Monmouth Counties.

For more information, contact Right at Home of Central New Jersey at:







Full Transcript: (Some typos are attributed to transcribing)
Have you been thinking about... maybe... Involving a little bit of extra help in the life of your aging loved- one? Today, that is what we are going to talk about.
Hi, this is Valerie VanBooven, with Approved Senior Network, and on today's episode of the Approved Senior Network TV, we're going to talk about:
When it's time to ask for help. Or when is it time to involve some sort of care in your senior loved one's life?
That is a challenging topic to address. But, as a Registered Nurse since 1992, and having helped a lot of seniors and families in that time, I'll give you my perspective on when it's time to ask for help.
And usually, if you're considering asking for help or you're thinking it's almost time, it's probably way past time to ask for help. And the reason I say that is that as caregivers, especially as family caregivers, we often wait too long to enlist the help of professional caregivers.
We feel stressed out, burned out. We know that mom or dad are not safe in their own home anymore by themselves all day long, all night long.
But we have jobs and we have kids and we have to do all the things we need to do to make ends meet. So adding on the task of taking care of mom and dad is sometimes more than a family can take on.
Sometimes it's not as hard for a son or daughter or a grandchild to help take care of mom or dad or grandma or grandpa.
But on the other hand, it can come to the point where help is definitely needed. Usually, the help that's needed can start out as home care. Now that's not in every case, but in a lot of cases, having some companion services come in someone to befriend Grandma, Grandpa or Mom and Dad, someone to help with light housekeeping light laundry, walk down to the end of the driveway and get the mail, sit and play cards with them, cook them or just make them a light lunch. Take them to doctor's appointments or to socialize. Maybe they have a group of ladies and get together with her, a group of guys for cards. Or maybe they like to go to church on Sundays. Having some transportation is important if they're no longer able to drive. So usually when we ask for help, um, we've already maybe we feel like we can't ask neighbors or friends or a church, which we should be able to do that.
But sometimes that's a difficult thing to ask. The next step is to ask for professional help and that is enlisting the help of a home care agency and caregiver to come in and relieve the family caregiver for a few hours a day. Maybe mom just needs somebody to sit with her during the evening hours.
Maybe you need someone there all night so you can sleep because your loved one is not sleeping well. Maybe they have their sun-downing, or they have dementia and they're confused when they wake up. Or perhaps they just need somebody to check in on them during the middle of the day. You know, maybe a four hour visit.
Get the lunch fixed, make sure if they want to go anywhere, or if they have groceries that need to be picked up. That that's taking care of even grocery delivery. These days can be scheduled during the time when a caregiver is there, so no one has to go to the grocery. They can have groceries delivered, and someone is there to help put that stuff away. So there are all kinds of help that you can start with. It doesn't have to be 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Help in the home.
It can be a few hours a day, maybe every other day, a couple of days a week, and then you kind of ease into it.
Some people will tell me. Well, my mom or dad will not let a stranger into the home, so there are different ways to introduce this type of care.
First of all, it doesn't have to be a stranger after they've met the caregiver. They can be their friend, so it depends on how receptive your aging loved one is.
But sometimes we need to have hard conversations. Either we allow "suzie" to come in the house three times a week and help with some light housekeeping and laundry. Or we're going to have to think of alternatives because you can't live like this in an unsafe way with not having your laundry done and not having your house cleaned and not having a good meal every day of the week. We need to fix that. You need to make me or help me as a family member, as a daughter, a son as a grandchild.
Feel better about what's going on here? I want you to be safe. I want you to stay in your own home. But we have to start down this road of, you know, having somebody here when I can't be here. Or maybe you're a full time caregiver. You're there all the time. 24 hours a day, seven days a week. But you just want to get away. You know that commercial? Well, if you need a little help, it's called respite care.
Take your break, take. You know, two 6 hour days a week and go do something else or do nothing. Sit in a hot bath, read a book, go to the movies, go shopping, get some things done that you need to get done. Take a break.
And that is what in home care and caregiving is all about. These are difficult conversations, tohave sometimes, and I would say that if you've been thinking about it, if you've been investigating it, if you have been feeling stressed out feeling like you just don't know how you can do this for another month or another week or another year. Then it's really time to reach out for help, really. Time to take a break and let someone else fill that position for you, just temporarily or on an ongoing basis.
Reaching out for help means picking up the phone and placing a call and talking to the folks at home care agency and finding out what it is they offer finding out how much it costs because costs are gonna vary all across the country and the level of care that your loved one needs. Well, there's lots of care, very individualized, very high intensity versus just a companion.
Someone who is easy to work with just needs a little help because they don't drive anymore. Now there's different levels of care. Also, if it's a couple who both need a little help, then two people is a different cost than taking care of just one person in the house. So ask lots of questions, talk to them about your fears, talk to them about you know, the the concerns you have about having a stranger come into the home.
They've been doing this a long time, and they can oversee that caregiver and make sure that everything is done up to your standards and, you know, working together with them the way things should be.
The other option that you have, of course, when you're thinking about care is moving completely out of the house and into independent living or or assisted living.
So independent senior living can mean that you are independent and you have to remain independent, and you are receiving no care at all.
But you're in and sort of an apartment style living or condo style living. And they do have meals, some, some do, some don't.
But so a lot of them do have meal service provided, so you can go down for dinner and go down for lunch. You can go for breakfast.
They have entertainment, they have clubs. They have buses that take or vans that take people to wal mart and shopping and two other events all the time. All you have to do is sign up, so that's more of a senior independent living.
And I would say that would be perfect for a widow or a widower who does not want to have to take care of a big yard anymore or a big giant house anymore, and they can be independent. But the situation they're kind of and now is way more than they need and way more than they can maintain on their own.
So maybe downsizing and moving into a little one bedroom or two bedroom sort of apartment or condo would be a better idea. Assisted living, on the other hand, is when folks need a little bit more help. They're fairly independent, probably not driving anymore.
But they do get two meals a day, at least maybe three, and all that's included in their rent. Along with utilities, they may have to pay extra for a landline phone, and they may have to pay extra for laundry. Service is or housekeeping, but through the assisted living facility will do all of those things, so there's lots of different ways to get care.
There are lots of different places to call and ask about pricing and services another one. I want to mention that we don't hear of as often, but definitely exists, and definitely helpful is adult day centers and adult day care can be for seniors of any need, any level of needs, so they can be for very independent people who just, you know, needs a more socialization during the day. Maybe they go four hours a day and they play cards or do activities or go on a bus to an event.
And it could be for folks who have more needs, maybe who are in another stage of dementia, and they really need to be watched during the day. But they're okay at night.
Or, you know, they just need a little bit more socialization and activity. They need to have their medications given to them while they're at their day center. They're all kinds of different levels of need and care, and some are more affordable than others.
But I would encourage you all that if you're a family caregiver, whether you live with a person, you're caring for a spouse or as a if you're the son, the daughter of the grand child, to reach out for help so that you can take a break and get some rest.
I would also recommend that if you don't live there 24 7 with that person who needs care that you investigate having someone come in just a few times a day for short shifts to kind of ease into the situation where they might need more care down the road.
You start that relationship, and now, then it won't be such a big deal. If there's a crisis in the future and they need more care, they will have already been accustomed to having a senior care helper in their house. Those are the kinds of opportunities that are out there to help everyone stay safe.
Stay in their home longer if you wish, and to give the caregiver a break. It's okay to take a break. It's okay to hire help.
It's okay to say, I need an entire day to myself to get some things done, and I need to walk out of here and know that my parent or grand parent is safe.
It's okay to be that way and to hire someone tough conversations. But I know that in every family there's different dynamics and different things going on, and you can have that conversation with the person that you are most worried about and say I just want you to be safe.
I just want to feel better knowing that you're home and that someone is there for you. If you should fall, if you should have problems, if you should need help, you know, doing the littlest things and and usually a parent will come around once they realize that their child is asking for help.
So I hope that this gives you some idea of when it's okay to ask for help. It's always okay to ask. It's always okay to call a homecare agency and just talk to them. Talk to their intake coordinator or the person that does there in home assessments or admissions.
Talk to them about your specific situation. They've seen it all by now, and they can answer any questions you have. And when a parent is resistant to getting help, they often have amazing tips and can talk to that parent as well and help them understand the position that you're in and the and the reason that you're reaching out for help.
Let them do their job, they can do it and they can help you with those words and those conversations that is, when asked for care and help. Our show today is sponsored by right at home of central new jersey.
I have them up on my screen here. You can call them. You can go to their website. Also have that in the comments with with this video. So if you're looking for help and you're in the central new jersey area, please visit our friends at right at home of central new jersey.